If I had a gold coin for each time I obsessed over my scars, I would be as rich as Elon Musk. And no, I am not joking. For real though, like many of us, I grew up in an environment where scars were not seen as a sign of strength but more so towards a less aesthetically pleasing factor. This baffled me when I was healing my inner child. All I remember thinking was, “ How did I allow myself to spend that much time worrying about scars!?”
In hindsight, we know that it is superficial and does not ever reduce a person’s worth. But here is the thing, why is it that we celebrate clear glass skin? I mean it is not wrong to want that in life; but shouldn't we be aiming more?
Here is the funny thing about acceptance. It does not mean that you will not “evolve” if you accept your reality. In fact, I would like to argue that a person grows in heaps once they have evolved past the acceptance stage.
So you might be wondering, what does this have to do with acne scar healing? Great question, I would love to tell you.
Similar to other wounds we have in our life, obsessing over it will NOT heal it. Period. When was the last you ever obsessed over something? Well, the Johnny Depp trial did not disappoint but you get the point, don't you? Let me give you an example in my own life. Non skin related of course.
I used to be so obsessed with looking and sounding more conventional. I was so troubled because the thought of being queer terrified me. To cope with this, I tried to speak and dress up differently; all just to fit into this “community” during what was supposedly to be “ the best 4 years of your life (college)”. Thankfully, during my sophomore year, I spent some time getting experience outside of college and that really helped understand the fear better. Eventually, after my semester break and it was time to head back to university, I somehow felt more empowered. Like, it didn't matter that I did not carry the latest Chanel bag just because my peers in college did.
It didn't also matter that I did not have similar interests like them because I am allowed to be a person on my own. Turns out, I do have a few conventional traits that I am proud of but never will I ever go back to a space where I obsess over something that will not bring value to my existence.
Now I want you to look at healing your acne scars the same way too. Do the minimum that you need to or maybe more but never put pressure on yourself. You are in the right place at the right time. Healing your acne scars is just one part of your skin health odyssey. There are many other aspects of skin health that we rarely hear. Hence why when you shop with us, rest assured there is no judgement on your skin health journey; even if you had used whitening products for years or believed that fair/spotless/glass skin = healthy skin, rest assured; NO JUDGEMENTS!
The best way to start is by taking baby steps. If you are someone who spends hours in front of the mirror or is consumed by intrusive thoughts; do this one thing. PAUSE! Take a 5 minute breather and go for a walk or maybe even ice your skin as a treat! Practice this regularly and you will spend less time being preoccupied about your skin appearance. Nothing comes easy; you have been warned. But then again, it also isn’t easy on your mental health when you are engrossed in “fixing” your appearance. Live a little for yourself because none of this ever matters.
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